How To Stretch Your Asshole For Anal Sex

Patience is key.

Anal play can be a rough thing to dive into. For many, it’s going to be painful the first one to 16 billion times, depending on a number of factors. But if you want to stretch your asshole out or otherwise get yourself “ready” to have anal sex, there are a few things you can do.

First off, there is no such thing as too much lube. Use as much as you need (preferably water-based). It will wash off. Use lots of lube. Seriously. Do it or you might find yourself having problems with anal sex.

Now that this is out of the way, try playing by yourself before trying anal sex with a partner. Start with a finger. Then two. Go slow. Enjoy it. The key to pleasurable anal sex is relaxing and enjoying the feeling. Maybe invest in some sex toys. There’s a whole world of stuff that you can use to get yourself “ready.” It’s important to remember you’re working with a muscle here. Muscles stretch. Muscles expand and contract and you’re going to need to effectively “exercise” it just like you would your legs before running a triathlon.

My lady friend was new to this sort of thing the first time we did it and we practiced together when she told me she wanted to try anal sex.

Some people will tell you to buy sex toys like buttplugs and vibrators and leave them in. While that might help with stretching the deeper parts of your forbidden pleasure tunnel, that’s not going to help you get over the initial feeling of having something inserted where you’re not used to it. It’s just not. Buttplugs are designed to go in and stay there, using the sphincter to hold it in. You might get used to the feeling of something being in there but a buttplug is not the way to prepare for something going through it. You’ve got to get through the doorway if you want to have fun in the room, or some other ridiculous metaphor.

So how do you stretch your asshole for when you have anal sex?

My current partner and I started with anal beads because they help you get used to the feeling of something going in through your sphincter. Then we moved on to plugs and continued playing with beads. She had a 5” vibrator (about 1.5″ in diameter) she used for other purposes and began “practicing” with that at home, then she moved on to a larger one and after a couple weeks of “training” we were able to have anal sex without a hitch.

There are, of course, other options — like this nice assortment of anal trainer kit supplies designed to get you “ready” to try anal sex. You should also try different anal sex positions until you find one you like. Start “on top” so you can control force and speed while having anal sex.

Ultimately, the key is not to rush yourself into trying anal sex.

Start small. Work toward bigger things until you feel you are ready to have anal sex. The only person who can really decide if you’re ready to have anal sex or not is you. Just like there’s no such thing as too much lube (seriously, use lots of lube), there’s no such thing as going too slow.

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